Daniel: 3 years old

Somehow when I wasn't looking my little baby turned into a 3 year old.  He's a happy, energetic, thoughtful little boy who keeps us laughing.

He recently moved up to the next oldest class at preschool.  He moved over gradually, first just in the afternoon but as of a few weeks ago he's there all day.  He's adjusted well.  The new class doesn't have naptime; given that he wasn't napping anyway that suits him perfectly.  He enjoys clean-up time at school and is a good helper.

Before he moved up to the new class, he enjoyed the "celebration of life" birthday commemoration in his old class.  Ms. Becca shared stories and pictures from each year of Daniel's life and he did a circle around the candles for every year of his life and she prayed thanksgiving for the 3 years past and blessings for the year to come.

Soccer lessons are offered at school once a week and he's been taking them since January. He loves it and is excited to tell us about scoring goals.  He has also been taking swim lessons once a week since late May and is enjoying those too.  He does every lesson with enthusiasm: kicking in the water, jumping off the side, swimming, and best of all, going down the slide!  No sooner does he finish something than he's calling out "I want to do it again!"  

Here he is swimming in the neighborhood pool:

They also do yoga at school and his favorite pose is star pose, which he does by spreading his arms and legs and announcing "star pose!"

When he's not swimming and playing soccer, he's happily reading books, singing songs, and loving on his baby sister.  He's very sweet with Rebecca, for the most part.

For his birthday we did a pool party with his school friends and a few other close friends.  He had a great time playing with all his friends.

He got a lot of birthday gifts he enjoyed but so far his very favorite is the kitchen set his teacher Ms. Emily got for him.  Apparently he plays with the school one a lot so she knew he'd love to have one of his own.  The minute he opened it he insisted on "cooking" for everyone!

He also enjoys the camera Mommy and Daddy got him:

Looking forward to Aggie football and showing off his Heisman pose!

He remains, as ever, a happy healthy boy.  At his 3 year checkup though his pediatrician noted that he has very large tonsils and that they partially obstruct his airway.  She referred us to a pediatric ENT doctor who suggested removing the tonsils and adenoids to help his breathing and sleeping.  It's a big decision and one we're still researching.

This year saw a major adjustment for him from only child to big brother and he handled it wonderfully.  He also adjusted from home care to preschool and is thriving at school.  The next year shouldn't hold such dramatic adjustments for him but it'll be fun to watch him continue to bloom in his new roles as student and brother.  Our first 3 years with Daniel have been a blessing and I'm excited to see what the next year brings.

Rebecca: 5 months

This Sunday Rebecca will be 6 months old...which means my 5 month update is right on time ;)  As usual, she remains a cheerful, mellow baby.  She always seems to wake up on the right side of the bed and greets me with a big smile every time she sees me.  She coos, gurgles, and laughs a lot too.  She is truly a joy to be around!

I work from home now and Mondays and Fridays it's just her and me.  Tuesdays-Thursdays our nanny comes to watch Rebecca so I can work uninterrupted and get out of the house.  But even on "nanny days" I still get to nurse Rebecca and spend time with her.  We're enjoying our time together.

She's still a great sleeper and eater. We haven't started solids yet but probably will in the next few weeks once she can sit up and is showing signs of readiness.  She can sit and stand with support but isn't sitting unsupported yet.  She doesn't have any teeth breaking through and isn't drooling yet so teething isn't imminent but she does like to put things in her mouth.

She's quite adept at rolling over both ways and really enjoys her activity gym.  She especially likes to pull the little monkey toy down and smiles triumphantly when she does.  She enjoys her baths with me too and likes standing up (supported) in the tub.

I take her with me to pick Daniel up from school in the afternoons and his friends love to tickle Rebecca's toes, play with the toy ice cream cone she holds, and rock her carseat.  Daniel proudly shows off his little sister.  Such a sweet big brother!

Sleeping beauty

Playing on her activity mat

Beach babe

Lying on my shoulder

Happy girl

Her 5 month picture

Padre vacation

Last month, in keeping with a longstanding family tradition, we journeyed to South Padre Island for five fun-filled days.  We were joined by my parents and two other families we're good friends with, both of whom by wonderful coincidence have 3 year old sons and baby daughters.

We expected a great trip and were not disappointed.  Daniel, Alejandro, and Noah enjoyed playing on the beach and building sand castles.  Daniel enjoyed running out into the ocean too until he'd get hit with a face full of salt water.  But after a minute he generally was ready for another round of it, and we had to keep a close watch to make sure our fearless little boy didn't run out into the water by himself!

Our little beach boy

Marko and Kevin take Alejandro and Daniel out into the surf

Nadine and Noah hanging out on the shore

As for the baby girls, 10 month old Gabi enjoyed crawling around in the sand but 4 month old Rebecca and 7 month old Layla were just observers this trip.  Because of differing nap schedules we didn't all make it down to the beach at the same time very often so I didn't get a lot of pictures of everyone.  Next year though the girls should all be down to just an afternoon nap so we'll get more group time on the beach together.

In 5 days there this was the only beach outing Rebecca made it to.  She was napping the rest of the time!

Amr and Layla look on as Noah plays in the sand.

Rebecca spent so little time down by the water I wasn't able to get a picture of all 4 of us together but here are the 3 of us:

My parents enjoyed the time with the kids and they enjoyed seeing Mimi and Baba.  They celebrated their 40th anniversary on the trip and were gracious enough to include all of us in their anniversary dinner.

One night the 6 30-somethings left the kiddos with babysitting grandparents, teen daughters, and cousins and treated ourselves to a night out.  We went to Gabriella's for a delicious Italian dinner.  We arrived with high expectations and left stuffed and satisfied.  We started with an appetizer of mussels. The broth was so good some of us might have been tempted to drink it up...

The trip was fun and enjoyable except for our last morning there.  I had gotten up early that morning to call to ask about late check-out.  No sooner had I gotten off the phone than I heard a thud from the kids' room.  I knew Daniel had fallen out of bed even before I heard the cry so I ran in to get him.  I assumed he'd have a big bruise but was shocked when he pulled his hand from his forehead and it was covered in blood.  Apparently falling face-first onto a tile floor from bed can give you quite a cut on the forehead.  I knew it was "just" a cut and was thankful it wasn't worse, but I also knew immediately that he needed stitches.  

And just like that, our concern that day wasn't about getting one last swim in, it was about an unplanned trip to the Harlingen hospital.  I woke Kevin up to take Daniel while I stayed with Rebecca and finished getting us packed.  5 stitches later they were discharged from the hospital and on their way back to the island to meet us for lunch.  Fortunately the cut is healing well, though he's still got quite a knot on his forehead a month later.  If you had told me before the trip that one of the kids would need an ER visit I have to admit I'd have bet on it being Daniel-the kid is fearless.  But ironically his first ER visit of his life wasn't because of playing hard at all, he was sound asleep!

After lunch we had a few hours till our flight so we checked out the turtle rescue center on the island.  It's not a big place but Daniel was really interested so we wound up spending about an hour there going from tank to tank looking at the turtles.  You can't see it in the picture but he's got stitches and a bandaid on his forehead.

If the whole falling out of bed thing took anything out of him he wasn't letting on about it.  That night after we arrived back at Love Field and were waiting for our bags, he and Alejandro were jumping around like frogs to the amusement of our fellow passengers.

Injuries aside it was a great trip and I'm already looking forward to Padre 2014!  Such a wonderful time with family and good friends.  I hope someday Daniel and Rebecca are excited to take their own kids to Padre and continue the tradition of happy times there.

The road less traveled

Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,

And sorry I could not travel both

And be one traveler, long I stood

And looked down one as far as I could

To where it bent in the undergrowth;

-The Road Less Traveled, Robert Frost 

I've hinted in a few previous posts about a big change in my family's life so now it's time to let the cat out of the bag.  I don't usually post about myself directly but this time I'll make the exception.

As of early July, I work for myself.  Or to be more specific, I work for a professional corporation I created.  I left my SBA job of almost 8 years to start a solo law practice from home.  I'll have a nanny watch Rebecca Tuesday-Thursday but Mondays and Fridays I will generally plan to just work from home during her naps.  I'll focus my practice on will preparation and estate planning, probate, and family law, all areas I've worked in previously and enjoyed.  I'm also considering getting trained to be a mediator.

This was a major change for me and my family and not one I made lightly.  But in the end, it wasn't really a hard decision when I considered where my personal and professional priorities lie.  When I sat down to consider what was most important to me in a job I put family-friendliness first, the opportunity to do interesting and challenging work second, and earnings and other benefits third.  

I enjoyed my time at the SBA and learned a lot there.  I had many wonderful coworkers whom I'm privileged to count as friends and I couldn't have asked for better managers all the way up my chain of command.  I'll always be proud of our work to help disaster victims and my efforts to help prevent and assist in the investigation and prosecution of disaster fraud.  And most of the time I enjoyed a predictable 40-hour work week.  It was a good job and a chapter of my life I'll always remember fondly.

But after doing the same thing for a long time I was ready for new professional challenges.  I wanted to learn and do new things and develop different skills.  And while my family and I were able to make the standard 40-hour weeks work for us easily enough, during periods of heavy workload we suddenly had to adapt to longer hours and sometimes 7-day weeks.  That was tough and would surely be harder with 2 young children.  Even when a heavy work period is "only" a month or two, kids change so much when they're young that that's a big period of their lives to miss.

During the fall of 2011 I was on a 7-day detail for 2 months straight and I stayed home one Saturday morning to get some time with Daniel.  That morning as I looked on he took his first steps.  I didn't want to risk missing those moments.  But more than worrying about missing the major moments, I want to be around for more moments period.

Then took the other, as just as fair,

And having perhaps the better claim,

Because it was grassy and wanted wear;

Though as for that the passing there

Had worn them really about the same,

While I was home on maternity leave I really enjoyed getting so much time with the kids and the family just "ran" better when I was home more.  I'm the family coordinator who makes sure trains run on time and where they need to be and we all benefit when I have a little more time to do that.  And Daniel really benefited from more one-on-one time with me.  Even picking him up just an hour earlier from school seemed to make him a much happier boy.  He loves school but I think he benefits from a little downtime in the evening.  And our relationship benefits from that time too, especially if Rebecca is napping and he and I can play.

Also, Kevin had some interesting opportunities available at his job but they would require more time and travel.  It was hard to envision that working out with both of us having full-time jobs and 2 young kids but if I had a more flexible schedule suddenly that became a possibility.  Maternity leave was my chance to travel a day down that other path and I liked what I saw.

Those 12 weeks at home made me wonder  whether there was a better way for me to balance my career and family life.  I talked to several friends and former colleagues who had started their own practices, including a few with home-based part-time practices.  That idea seemed like it might align well with my career goals but I knew this was a major decision and not one to make during the heightened emotions of a maternity leave that seemed to be slipping through my fingers.  So I decided to return to work and, if I still felt the same way after a month or so, think more seriously about a change.

The truth is my return to work wasn't hard.  That first day was tough but I slipped back into the routine pretty quickly.  It's like spending all day inside, becoming used to the ambient temperature, and not even realizing it's cold until you step outside then back in.  With a few more months I'd have acclimated back to business as usual.  But fresh off of maternity leave and with plans for a solo practice percolating in my head, I knew it was time for a change.

And both that morning equally lay

In leaves no step had trodden black.

Oh, I kept the first for another day!

Yet knowing how way leads on to way,

I doubted if I should ever come back.

And so one day I walked into my boss's office, gave my notice, and made it official.  Kevin's paternity leave ends this week so it made sense to time my transition accordingly.  For a number of reasons that was also an ideal time for my office to transition my position to someone else.

July 2 dawned and I drove to the SBA for the last time as an employee.  My work group gave me a wonderful send-off and I went to lunch with my best SBA friend.  Then that evening I handed in my letter of resignation, carried out the last of my belongings, and turned in my badge.  Just like that a chapter was closed and a new one begun.  As the song says, every new beginning comes from some other beginning's end.

The next day we took off for our annual family vacation-not the worst way to spend my first day of self-employment!  Since our return I've spent my days getting my practice set up.  It's a work in progress but I'm excited about all the opportunities that lie ahead on this new road!

In the best case my practice will be successful and fulfilling and I might even be able to claim the title of primary breadwinner. But worst case scenario, even if I try it for a few years and decided it wasn't for me, I'll still have gotten more time with the kids and gained some valuable experience. Framed that way it was an easy decision.  I may succeed, I may fail, but either way I'll know I tried and will never wonder "what if?"

I shall be telling this with a sigh

Somewhere ages and ages hence:

Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—

I took the one less traveled by,

And that has made all the difference.

I've often said I want to empower my children to run a business, run a household, and run a marathon.  This year I'm going to lead by example on all 3 counts, so look for me at the finish line of the Dallas Marathon this December!  Have a baby, start a business, and run my first marathon in the same year?  Why not? :)

"I want to get more comfortable being uncomfortable. I want to get more confident being uncertain. I don't want to shrink back just because something isn't easy. I want to push back, and make more room in the area between I can't and I can. Maybe that spot is called I will."

-Kristin Armstrong, Runner

And now, back to your regularly scheduled programming.  Next up: Padre vacation, Rebecca's 5 month update, and Daniel's 3 year update.

Rebecca: 4 months

Once more I find myself getting a monthly update in right under the wire.  Maybe next month will be better!

Nearly 5 months in Rebecca continues to be as easygoing and cheerful a baby as you could imagine.  She sleeps and naps well and almost always has a big smile on her face and big beautiful blue eyes full of wonder.  When we are out somewhere with her we get lots of comments about how pretty, well-behaved, and alert she is.  She almost never cries, even when she's off schedule.  I call her my mellow mushroom...she's just content to take everything in if she's secure in loving arms.

She's still enjoying Kevin's paternity leave and now, thanks to another new development (another post I'm overdue on), she will enjoy more time with me too.  She loves Daniel and watches him alertly whenever he's nearby.  He's very sweet with her too.  On our recent vacation to South Padre Island we had the kids share a bedroom and one day we tried to put them both down for a nap.  She started crying and I heard Daniel get out of bed, come over to her crib and reassure "it's okay Baby Rebecca, it's okay!"  Such a sweet big brother.

Not a lot of big news in developments this month.  She continues to hone her rolling skills and can roll back to tummy and tummy to back.  In light of this newfound skill and our switch from swaddling to the sleep sack, tummy sleeping has become her favored sleep position and she'll sleep like that for 12+ hours and wake up with a smile on her face.  She's also got increasingly strong legs and can now stand pretty well assisted.  She laughs too, especially if I rub my head on her tummy, and it's the sweetest sound in the world.

She's still exclusively breastfeeding and eating well.  She isn't teething yet that I can tell but she puts her hands and just about anything else she can get her hands on in her mouth.  I don't remember Daniel being so "mouthy" at this age; maybe she'll teethe a little earlier than he did.  Or maybe it's just her means of self-soothing.

We never used a pacifier with Daniel and at this point I would guess we'll probably not use one with her either. As far as I'm concerned if she doesn't need it, it's one less thing for us to have to worry about.  Yay for self-soothing babies!

Here's her 4 month carseat picture:

3 months old

I started this post a few weeks ago and didn't get around to finishing.  Now her 4 month birthday is just days away...

I spent Rebecca's first 12 weeks at home with her on maternity leave.  When I went back to work in early May Kevin started his paternity leave and they've spent the last month at home together.  They're enjoying the time together.  Kevin goes back to work in late July and when that happens...well, we've got a great plan for that, but I'll save those details for another post.

3 months in Rebecca is a very mellow, easygoing, happy girl.  She smiles, giggles, and coos, especially when she sees us.  She enjoys playing on her activity mat and rolls from back to side a lot.  She's learned how to roll over from her back to tummy fairly well but sometimes she'll get an arm stuck under her and cry.  I haven't seen her roll tummy to back yet but I know it's just a matter of time.

One funny thing she does that I don't recall Daniel doing is making this loud "wounded bird" squawk. Sometimes she does it when she's unhappy but often it's just a noise. 

She's still sleeping swaddled for now but as she gets more proficient at rolling she'll graduate to a sleep sack.  She often frees an arm and/or legs from the swaddle. Her sleep schedule has adjusted a bit now that I'm back at work but she still sleeps well.  She goes down for the night by about 8:30 and wakes around 6 or so.  Then after I feed her I put her back in her crib and she'll usually nap for up to an hour till it's time to go with Kevin to drop Daniel off at school.  Then she takes a long nap for 3-4 hours from mid-morning to early afternoon.  Then she'll nap another hour or two in the early evening.  I get her up by 6 to feed and bathe her before she goes down for the night again.  She's a much better napper than Daniel ever was.  We got lucky with 2 great sleeping babies!

She's eating well too.  She nurses every morning and night with me and takes several bottles of pumped milk from Kevin during the day.

One of her favorite times of day is bath time.  She smiles and coos up at me as I pour warm water on her.  If Daniel's in the tub too he likes to help bathe her.  She's very fond of her big brother and smiles when she sees him.  For his part he's a sweet big brother but can be bossy too.  She likes to suck on her hands and he'll see that and say "no, Baby Rebecca!" as he pulls her hands out of her mouth.  And sometimes if he's sitting next to me and I ask if he wants to hold her he says "no, she's very very big."

It's been a busy month for Rebecca: 2 family weddings and her baptism.  It was nice to introduce her to our big extended Daniel family and my aunts and cousins loved holding her.  Here she is all dressed up for cousin Scott's wedding:

And cuddling with cousin Adele:

May 19 was her baptism.  Given the wardrobe malfunction we had at Daniel's baptism we had a pretty low bar set for a successful event.  Fortunately Rebecca did just fine.  She got a little fussy waiting for her turn at the baptismal font (she was one of four baptized at that service) but the closest we came to a wardrobe malfunction was that her shoes kept falling off.  It beats a diaper blowout!

 

"Sitting up" on the couch.  In only a few more months she'll be doing it unsupported. She's already come so far from the newborn we brought home in February!

How Daniel sleeps: a photo essay

Every night before I go to bed I go into each kid's room and give them a last kiss goodnight.  When I see Daniel sleeping in an odd position I take a picture.  These pictures are all taken in a dark room with a flash so they're blurry but I think they capture the moment.

 

He sleeps on a twin mattress on the floor.  His bed has a pillow, sheets, and a bedspread but you wouldn't know it from these pictures.  He likes to keep it simple.

 

Here are a few shots of him sleeping:

 

 

Note the pillow at his feet.  His head is at the foot of the bed.

 

 

 

Lying sideways, bottom in the air.

 

 

 

 

This is the flamingo pose.  Interestingly I find that I often do the same thing in my sleep.  You wouldn't think it would be comfortable but for some reason it is.  Oh, and again his head is at the foot of the bed.

 

 

 

 

He sure does like the foot of the bed!

 

 

 

This time he decided to mix it up and lie east-west in the bed.  One nice thing about having the mattress right on the floor, if your feet dangle off the bed they're not just hanging in the air.

 

 

 

And then there was the time he wasn't in his bed at all. He was on the bathroom floor.  Apparently he got up to use the potty and didn't have the energy to make it back to his bed!

 

 

 

The strangest sight of all-Daniel actually lying north-south in his bed, head on the pillow, covers pulled up!